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- Sat May 03, 2008 10:42 pm
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
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Re: Stuck
Harigata - I'm sorry you're having such a hard time finding what you're looking for. The things you list as 'not therapy' actually *do* work for me, and are what have helped me away from the edge of feeling suicidal and imagining death as the only way to stop the pain. I hope you find someone to hel...
- Sat May 03, 2008 1:15 am
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
Another thought: If the world is basically FUBAR, trying to fix ourselves individually is a waste of time. And since most of us can't fix the whole world, or even the relatively small portion of it that we personally occupy, what's left? What can we do? I don't know about anybody else here, but I st...
- Sat May 03, 2008 12:59 am
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
Do you think there's anything that could help you? If you could say exactly what you needed, and you could somehow get whatever it was, what would that thing be?
- Fri May 02, 2008 9:16 pm
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
I feel Janov has fallen pray to the old therapists' disease of EDUCATING (that is, being mean to a person in pain as retaliation for the same having been done to you - taking it out on the next generation, so to speak), and that he has bequeathed his malevolent terminology to.... everybody. I'm not...
- Fri May 02, 2008 9:54 am
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
Without repression, a person can be faced with horrendous realizations.... not only about their own life, but about the way our society functions to cause emotional pain in all kinds of circumstances. Very true! One of my favorite quotes, from Lily Tomlin, says essentially the same thing: "Rea...
- Fri May 02, 2008 9:42 am
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
Hi Bernard, It makes me uncomfortable to see both Dennis and mimsy lecturing you about your feelings.... as if you didn't know! I'm not lecturing harigata about his feelings - I think whatever s/he feels is totally fine. I was more trying to suggest that he might get himself caught in a frustrating ...
- Fri May 02, 2008 8:35 am
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
Until I reached the point I let go and expressed the anger, agony and pain alone, fearing I couldn't do it alone. Nobody can feel the pain for you. I am not afraid of expressing these things - I've been expressing them over and over for many years now (almost 10 years) and nothing changes. I experi...
- Thu May 01, 2008 11:27 pm
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
to harigata again, Last comment too blabby again. I think I know where you're coming from - the wish for death being about making the pain stop. The pain doesn't stop because nobody will LISTEN to your pain, you can't find anyone who will let you speak about it as much as you need to. So you're look...
- Thu May 01, 2008 11:10 pm
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
Hey harigata, I'm 35 years old, and have been dying, a minute at a time, for 35 years. Of course it's ok for you to say this, it's what is true for you . For each of us, our own experience is our only real truth. As to whether it's ok to say it here , I guess that's up to Dennis. My perception is th...
- Thu Apr 24, 2008 10:45 pm
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
Hi harigata, Well, whenever you feel like 'talking', let me know :-) And as far as wading through my first post, *I* even find it largely incomprehensible (no, not a self-slam, just acknowledging that when I write while both tired *and* over-excited I become incoherent). So don't feel compelled to r...
- Thu Apr 17, 2008 4:48 am
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
Sorry my first post is so long and rambly - looks like I can't edit it, unfortunately. When I saw harigata's comments I got all excited thinking, "hey, this person thinks like ME!" and just jumped in, with a thousand thoughts going all different directions at once. Anyway, Harigata, I hope...
- Thu Apr 17, 2008 3:32 am
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
Where can I find people I can work with? Not discuss and theorize and feel compassion and reach understanding and shit, but actually express pain, feel it, scream, bang on the pillows etc? People who are willing to consider buddy sessions over the phone? I'm looking for this too. Though I'm really ...
- Thu Apr 17, 2008 3:23 am
- Forum: Therapy & Healing
- Topic: Stuck
- Replies: 24
- Views: 87832
Re: Stuck
Hi harigata, I came over here from Daniel Mackler's site (just recently joined) and I wanted to offer a few thoughts. I have been looking for people to do mutual 'therapy' with, without success so far - the best I'm able to do is find friends who are sympathetic about various issues and sort of 'tra...